I had a thought I wanted to share.
Guess what it was about?
Guess what I set in motion with that thought?
A bunch of complaints.
I’d started to write, had to leave what I was working on to do early morning driving, start some chores and get kids up and ready for school.
Then everything fell apart.
I got derailed emotionally because there was too much to fix and none of it had anything to do with me except that in the end it had everything to do with me and my leadership at home.
So here’s my new thought:
Instead of berating yourself for getting derailed, why not look at how important it is to teach those that you lead to do their part – to function as a whole?
“Is she ALWAYS like that?”
Always like what? I hadn’t done anything but ask someone to do his part – something he’d agreed to do.
What was “THAT?”
Direct? Clear? Bossy? Intimidating?
I was perplexed. I crawled back into my rabbit hole and reviewed the past hour.
I was called in as a support to a woman who was having some problems with an organization she was leading. She explained her predicament and admitted that she didn’t know what to do.
I asked her who had the authority to help her. Lo and behold, the man whose help she needed was walking by.
I called him into our meeting, and asked if he could do X, Y, and Z for her, and when?
He wrote some things down, grinned, and said, “Sure.”
Easy enough. Right?
Then why pull my friend aside and ask, “Is Betsy always like that?”
Could it be that people don’t like being exposed? Was I out of line for asking him to do his job?
That experience has stuck with me for years. I pondered it on my drive this morning…before everything went nuts in my house.
I can put the pieces together now – the leadership pieces.
I might feel like I can do it all. I might even look like I can do it all. I may even like to do it all.
But that’s not my job.
My job is to do my part.
As a mom that means training people to do theirs.
As an employee it means asking for help from the higher-ups in the chain of command sometimes so that I can do my job better.
It’s also to take a step back when everything gets derailed and see where the problems are, getting things back in working order as quickly as possible.
Easier to do with a train than people, but just as important.
Gotta run. Hope you can fill in the blanks for me. I’m sure that there are many!