Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh!” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” ~A.A. Milne
I waited, thinking I knew what he was going to say. We’d only been talking for five minutes and knew very little about each other. But as soon as he knew I had children, and that I missed them, he softened.
“I’ve had epiphany,” he started. “Women really do hold it all together.”
I think he was admitting to what he hadn’t known when he was married?
“So many people think they can do it all. But they can’t.”
I waited again. He was on a roll.
“I’m so lonely.” Now I was confused. Was he talking about tasks or emotions? Which ones do women do that “hold it all together”?
I thought about that conversation as I contemplated reverting to my old ways – list-making of tasks to get the things done around the house that I used to do all the time.
I felt a very dangerous (to me) thought creeping up, hoping to be believed:
I know I could do it all.
But where’s the fun, , the friendship, the support and the commraderie / relationship in that?
Some people can ‘do it all’. Maybe I can, too.
But I won’t.
It’s too lonely.
I like having someone have my back for when I lose my mental list of all that needs to get done; when I lose myself and the need to be nurtured, not just helped.
There’s a difference.
I don’t remember exactly how that conversation ended. It was only a few days ago. But I know that I was changed because of his humility and vulnerability with a new friend.
it’s what connects people.
Thank goodness! That’s all I have to say!